Experiences and events are just things – things that happen in our life.
As difficult, challenging or even painful as these experiences can be at the time, it is our response to those things, the shift in our thinking, that determines what the outcome will be (and the direction that our life will take).
“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself
but to your own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”
~ Marcus Aurelius
A business decision may not lead to the result one might have desired.
A piece of art or writing, created through hours of hard, dedicated work, may not be accepted by the public.
A performance, based on relentless practice, falls short of the desired reception of the audience.
All of these experiences have one thing in common: the opportunity to frame them either through the eyes of an Owner or a Victim. As my mentor and friend Steve Chandler said in his recent workshop,
“There are only two kinds of people in any given situation – Victims and Owners.”